Workshops and Presentations on the Sacred Art of Listening
Top Ten Powerful Listening Practices
- Stop talking.
One person speaks at a time. One of the most irritating listening habits is that of interrupting.
- Pause before speaking.
Allow the person who is speaking time to complete their thought, wait a few seconds before responding.
Another variation on this is to ask “Is there anything else?” There almost always is.
- Listen to yourself.
Be in touch with your inner voice. Ask yourself, “What wants to be said next?”
- Listen for understanding.
You do not have to agree with what you hear, or even believe it, to listen to understand the other person.
- Ask for clarification.
If you do not understand what someone is saying, just ask.
- Let the speaker know that you have heard them.
Body language: nodding, facial expressions.
- Be patient and present.
Listening well takes time and your presence.
- Listen with an open mind.
Be curious and appreciative of what you are listening to.
Listen for new ideas instead of judging and evaluating.
- Pay attention to the environment.
Stop what you are doing to listen.
Turn off background noise when possible; move to a quieter corner of the room; clear your desk.
- Listen with empathy and compassion.
Put your agenda aside for the moment. Put yourself in their shoes.
It only takes one minute a day to…
… practice silence.
Spend at least one minute each day intentionally silent.
… practice reflection.
Ask yourself, “What is emerging now? What wants to be said or done now?” Then wait for your inner wisdom.
… practice mindfulness.
Spend at least one minute per day aware of what you are doing for each second.